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I Enjoy To Listen

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Extroverts, please talk

I listen, not for the sake of politeness, but for listening. If I don’t answer or am quiet, I have nothing to say. But just because I don’t have anything to say doesn’t mean that I’m bored, find the situation boring or anything else. I just like listening.

Sometimes extrovert people think they would annoy me if they were talking all the time. It happens sometimes, but more likely not. If I don’t have anything to say, it’s great when someone else takes over the job, so there’s no awkward silence.

But I don’t want to hide a problem that comes with being introverted:

I hate to talk. Not because I have nothing to say, but because the tap in my head is sometimes a bit blocked. I want to say something, think about everything, but then when I can say it, it disappears from my memory and is only back when it is usually too late. So it happens that I’m finished after just one minute in introduction rounds, where everyone needs about 5 minutes, but I can think of many more things when the next one is already talking.

And that is also the reason why I like writing so much, because I have enough time to organize my thoughts and I am not under such pressure of time.


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